I started off as wanting to be a professional martial artist at twelve, but enrolled into medical school, after 5 years
of medical practise, the professional Martial artist in me was born. So I believe, if u really desire something, Life
takes u there.
Being strongly atheistic (non believer in God), I searched and searched for a Philosophy that made sense. I embraced
Martial arts as a religion to practice.
I was inspired by Zen and embraced it willingly, but it though taught me how to think (or not think!), it did not give
me any guidelines for living.
Till I found JKD. The JKD principles of Simplicity, Directness, Effectivity, Open mindedness, Fluidity, Non traditional
Nature, Absorb what is useful & Hack away the unessentials were gospel to me. I applied & applied these everywhere
and I succeeded like hell. The success was not always material, but my goals were always reached.
I often wonder. Why folks donot use JKD in their lives? When it is the simplest & the most logical path? The
answer is simple! The simplest thing in the world is the most hardest to comprehend. And if u comprehend, still it remains
the most difficult to execute. Why? Bcos everyone is a slave to classical (traditional conditioning). And to the traditional
mind, move in a direction away from the herd is blasphemy!
As a human ,being part of the system, I always moved in reverse. People work on their profession, careers, assets,
family. I chose to work on myself, my mind and my health.
At the tender age of 22, I was out into the world as a medcal professional. I practiced as a medical consultant part
time using half my day, and reserved the other half for my workouts. I spent long hours with Sam (Dr Seema, my buddy &
sparring partner of 20 years) discussing my mind, goals of life (whether they exist, if at all!) & the journey.
I realized that in life, people were involved in running at break neck speed towards their death striving towards
amassing material goods. In the process they lost themselves and whatever they originally possessed - the freedom of
a child's thoughts, the fitness of youth and the reasons for joy & laughter.
I lead my life differently. I worked on my body, my mind and my spiritual development.
Material Goods. Yes I would want them. A BMW convertible is a great desire. A BMW with a blonde is even better.
With two blondes, hey Wow! But it doesnt matter if I walk on the streets. It was never a need.
Why do people give up all they have for material gains? I believe that there are many MUST HAVES.
First - freedom
Second - time
Third - fitness & health
Fourth - peace of mind & clarity of thought
Five - $ $ $ $ $!!! Money!
Imagine an obese, lame millionaire who has to play pawn to his father, who has no time for his family &
who is jealous of his buddies! of what use is his wealth?
I preferred to be extremely fit, retain my childhood love for the arts, develop a no- mind, keep free from the humdrums
of working 9-5 & keep procuring wealth as the last important priority. I didnot want to give precious moments
of my life to doing anything that blocked my growth or obstructed my other priorities.
So, we decided, Sam & I, that we will take our combat concepts to those places where it will be really respected
& needed. We started training the Police & Armed forces.
In our country martial arts are taught for peanuts. (4 $ / month, yes, u got it right, four dollars!) We quoted higher
professional charges.These could not be met by the forces without adequate time (6-8 months) for government sanctions.
So we did away with our professional charges thinking we either get paid the amount we deserve, or rather we do
not get paid at all, but we will not dispense our superior art at throw away prices.
What we missed in wealth, we made up by accumulating respect. We won the respect of soldiers, senior officials &
eventually the top brass (Service Chiefs)
So we were really a proud pair. We served our beloved Nation for ten years without any fees!
NOW LET ME BREAK THE RHYTHM....FLASHBACK TO A YEAR BACKWARD
Some One very dear to me let me down. Went away from me. Was my family. Betrayed my trust, plotted against me, let
me down. And all the while We loved & only loved. All my hopes and Sam (Seemas) hopes were shattered by this act of betrayal.
It made us, Me and Sam think. Sometimes the most unexpected happens. The least expected happens. Everything appears
to end. Your world collapses. But you have to react. Summon all your strengths, act with wisdom, nobility and grace. Character is best seen when you are at your worst.
Your dear one hits back at you. Has not understood your love. Returns it with Hate. Attempts to pull you down. Attacks
u. Wants to see you finished. You cannot do the same. A show of poor character
cannot be retuned with another equally miserable show.
If you have loved, then you must be clear. Donot counter back. So I did
not counter back. Simply got hurt. Wept and Wept. And consoled myself – I weep becos my near one turned out so poor
in character. I weep for that one, not for myself. I am sorry that it was such a bad turnout. For myself, I came out shining
bright with substance and character.
One day after the event, I was sad. Life threatened to end. Then I opened my mind. Summoned my JKD. Those years spent
in philosophical thinking was now to be tested. In times where I was stretched enough to break. In ONE Day alone I got liberated.
Never cried after that.
Simply laughed. Someone I trained, who grew up under my watchful eyes, nurtured by my love was dead. Someone I taught
all, how to think, how to work, how to be healthy in Mind, Body & Soul. Tried to finish me, my mind, my world, my sanity
– with intent.
Ah INTENT – Now ask a combat man what is intent, he is used to registering it so well. All the time. So I was
telling you – In one day it was washed out of my mind. The incident and the person. But of course the paradox stayed. How could someone who was brought up my me display such low morals & ethics?
Well you will say happens all the time. Children betray the love of their parents. Wives betray their husbands. Employees
betray their Company. Yes happens all the time. But Not in My World. Never….. But this time it did! I now don’t
trust anybody. I’ll tell u why.
Like the story of the man who pretends to be lame when the King is crossing
the River on his horse. He was asked by the King if he needs help. He tells the King, Please let me ride across the river
on your horse. The King obliges. After crossing the river he says “You idiot of a King, now I will take your horse away
and you walk back to your kingdom. The King says “Please Keep the horse – but promise me that you will never tell
this to anyone. The man laughs “Why are u ashamed to be cheated, O King?”
“ No” the King replies, “ But if people hear this tale, NO ONE WILL EVER TRUST ANYONE AGAIN”
Bye Bye Dear One. Wish you the Best in Life. You are going to need it.
As for me…I’ll Walk On! In the words of Lee, Walk on to the beautiful valleys. Walk on to the beautiful oceans.
To the beautiful mountains. To the beautiful Life.
years, I felt younger. My hair is greying, hairline receding, skin beginning to age. But my mind feels fresher by time. And
I am NOT AFRAID.
ago, I realized that man is afraid. I WAS AFRAID.I made a list of fears. Death was first. The rest as below.
(1) THE FEAR OF DEATH .
(2) THE FEAR OF AGEING
(3) THE FEAR OF PERMANENT DISABILITY.
(4) THE FEAR OF CHRONIC DISEASES.
(5) THE FEAR OF DEPENDENCE (IN DISASTER
/ DISEASE / OLD AGE)
(6) THE FEAR OF DISASTER .
(7) THE FEAR OF SITUATION ( DANGEROUS
(8) THE FEAR OF DANGEROUS MEN .
(9) THE FEAR OF DISAGREEMENTAND
THE FEAR OF LOSS OF ESTEEM AND LOSS OF FACE.
THE FEAR OF MATERIAL LOSS.
THE FEAR OF SEXUAL REJECTION .
THE FEAR OF ALIENATION AND LONELINESS.
THE FEAR OF POVERTY AND FINANCIAL INSTABILITY.
THE FEAR OF SOCIETY.
THE FEAR OF THE LAW.
THE FEAR OF THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE .
THE FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN.
THE FEAR OF BODILY HARM.
THE FEAR OF THREAT.
of years back, there seemed no way I could have got over or conquered any of these fears. Man, I was really scared. Today,
however, I have got over most. KUDOS !
hit forty. I think often, what have I achieved in Life? I live in a rental house. I donot make enough money. I have not
made a family. All I have done is educated myself. I posess 3 doctorates, & sam has a doctorate & an MBA. I have martial
arts ranks. I have about 300 trophies and a hundred commendation letters from the ramed forces. What else?
realize. I have a reasonably good physique, am extremely fit, am very good in combative arts. (I am not humble about this!)
I have developed a zen mind (rather I have lost my mind) and I am in good health, am free, I hv all the time in the world
to do what I want (not to waste or wile). I hv aacumulated a small amount of money to last me thru tough times. And I
am FREE to experience, unbound by classical traditions!
everything unconventional. JKD way. Had Lee been around, he would have probably said 'Hey, that man is for real!' Today his
opinions about my life are reflected via Bustillo. He appears to be proud of me.
an unconventional education. I followed my instincts and defied my institutions to laern the right way.(lets not elaborate,
for now). I had unconventional relationships. I dumped traditional martial arts and yet made it big. I practise medicine
questioning the answers and conventional therapies. I have an unconventional routine rather than a 9-5 job. And I work as
an unconventional consultant in counter terrorism training.
has worked. And worked wonders.
has life to offer? I want to LIVE! and see what more is to come. The Bad I will conquer or endure. PASS. The good, I look
forward. Hey life, Here I am waiting with open arms...
The most dangerous transition in Life! Man is so afraid of change. Routine is boring, but stable. Change is probably fun,
bcos it brings the prospect of progress or gain, but dangerous. for u may leave ur perfectly secure position and move on to
a very unstable position. From the Frying pan into the Fire!!.
should therefore be brought about by a Zennish attitude of opposites. CAUTIOUS BOLDNESS and never bcos of GREED of gain. I
have seen many vanquished bcos they thought they must welcome / invite change primarily bcos of greed, but they
passed it off as "one must move on" I have faced so many changes, many without option, but have adapted to them all.
is sometimes defined as your ability to adapt to ur environment, but also as your ability to make ur environment adapt to
ur needs.(Tao). I have used this JKD principle quite often, trying to make my environment adjust to my needs, and wherever
I couldnt, I have gracefully adapted to the environment. the soft force, "Water - The most adaptive, yet strongest force on
one know whether what he did was correct or not? Whether the chosen path, philosophy, attitude, decision or movement
was right or wrong. Only by the JKD principle of EFFECTIVITY.
the end of the road, the person who walked that road truly thinks he ended up HAPPY, then the path was right. Or else wrong.
So, only the individual himself can decide, Right or Wrong.
may rationalize and use the JKD principle to say I M HAPPY even if they are not. They use the JKD principles to suit their
thinking, Such application is dangerous.They may eventually end up in a mess.
As I look
back, I thank JKD for everything it has given me, and I thank Life for helping me find JKD.
was selected for Mrs India World Beauty Pagent. 250 selections from over 25,000 all over the country. Guess What, She made
it to top 8 finalists. They were going to make her the Queen, but then she was asked whether she will return the favor. You
know what. She said go to hell.
I was told that many soldiers, officers & senior brass of the Army was cheering her all over India. What great motivation.
She was my Mrs World anyways. Character won over Material gain. Woman of Substance!
the end of this year, A thought crossed our minds... If we were to be told to die tommorow, would we have the same perspective
to Life today? I am sure not.
suddenly seem so beautiful. Every moment would be beautiful. Every human being would be uniquely important.
would not matter. The present will become most valuable, The future would not exist.
are in a hurry, time is slow. If we are ready to wait, Time is fast. But Time is what it is. It is not!!
us live today as if we are going to die tommorow. And let us plan tommorrow as if We are going to live forever. In the
words of Lee, It is defeat that you must learn to live for. When tommorow comes, you must learn to die.
We are so LUCKY to have crossed you. You all have enriched our life. We mean that with all sincerity to each & every
one of you.
we all will reach our goals and in this year we all will also reach our understanding of a goalless life. The Nothing
which one seraches for, when the goal for everything ends. The No mindedness which is the height of cultivation of all
we will also try better, try Softer. When we need to exert a force stronger than the hardest force we have used, we will
find that softness is needed. Thus the softest thing in the world will overcome the strongest.
we will Live. Enough of surviving Life. Lets live and live every moment to the fullest. Let us notice the Sunrise, the
Birds chirping, the Wind blowing, the flower blossoming & the trees swaying gently to the Music of Life.
Let us listen
to the music of our soul and quieten the noise of our mind.